I finally read "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. (https://www.stephencovey.com/7habits/7habits.php I know. I'm like 15 years behind the times here. I learned a lot of great stuff in studying this book, but one of the ones I really like using in parenting is the concept of emotional bank accounts.
The idea I use in parenting is that we have an emotional bank account with each of our children. We make deposits into and withdrawals from this account. Each positive or good thing we do is a deposit. Each negative thing is a withdrawal. For some of my children, even a little negative item ("You need to clean your room") can be a large withdrawal. I need to make sure I have made enough deposits into the account ("Thanks for being so good about always putting your backpack away"), so that there is a positive balance in the account.
Very accounting-ish, but what can I say. It works for me to remember this and make sure I'm making more deposits. There will be times when withdrawals have to be made and I don't want to overdraw my account and have it go negative. The fees can be quite hefty when that happens.
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